[GLUTEN-11302][VL] Fix gpu build by bumping to cuda-13.1

[zhouyuan]

What changes are proposed in this pull request?

Fix GPU build by

• switch to use gcc-14
• bumping to cuda-toolkit-13.1

The new cuda-toolkit-13.1 requires larger disk spaces, so this patch also modified GHA to clean up the disk space firstly

How was this patch tested?

pass GHA

fixes: #11302

[bdice]

If possible, we should try to fix this by calling find_package for cudf. It should set up all these include paths. I'll try to repro this locally with @karthikeyann and make a suggestion.

We don't want to require a specific CUDA version just to get a particular CCCL version -- those don't always move in lockstep and sometimes RAPIDS requires CCCL versions that have been publicly released but are not yet shipped in a CUDA toolkit.

[zhouyuan]

@bdice thanks for the inputs. Yes, I think we ran into version mismatch for rapids rmm and cuda. Initially in Gluten we prepared a docker env with cuda-12.8 pre-installed, everything works and the CMake piece was targeting for the old env. However with the recent cudf-25.12 change, It does not compile, hence I'm experimenting on how to fix this. In my local env, i will need to bump to use cuda-13.1 otherwise there will be issues on some header definition. I also tried cuda-12.9 and cuda-13.0 - does not work

/__w/incubator-gluten/incubator-gluten/dev/../ep/build-velox/build/velox_ep/_build/release/_deps/rmm-src/cpp/include/rmm/detail/cuda_memory_resource.hpp:23:49: error: 'synchronous_resource_with' is not a member of 'cuda::mr'
   23 | inline constexpr bool resource_with = cuda::mr::synchronous_resource_with<Resource, Properties...>;

[bdice]

I filed #11407 as a follow-up!

[zhouyuan]

for cuda-13.1 it supports 75 at minimal

[rui-mo]

Thanks!