Improve useTabStateSync dependencies and setter memoization

[robertluiz]

• In the React hook, the whole options object is passed as a useEffect dependency. This means the effect will re-run on every render unless the user memoizes the options or defines them outside the render function—which most users probably won’t do.

• Also, the setter function returned by the hook could be memoized with useCallback, to avoid breaking memoization in user components that depend on it.