Be default docker image use port 9100 for messages between nodes in the cluster.
This requires allow this traffic on network equipment like security group in AWS or firewalls.
Also the same port used by the Prometheus monitoring for node exporter. It will much more simple to manage network equipment configuration when CouchDB and Prometheus node exporter use different ports.
Could you make inet_dist_listen_min and inet_dist_listen_min configurable using environment vars or any other mechanism.